Understanding Grace and Holiness

IS IT POSSIBLE TO MISS THE GRACE OF GOD?

The Biggest Lie of Feel-Good Religion

One of the biggest lies people believe today is that you can be saved and live a successful life without ever having your heart changed to the deepest core. Meaning that you still love the world, you will still be addicted to your flesh – but that you are somehow saved. Some people say, “God did everything, you just have to agree with it,” and that’s it. But that’s not what the Bible teaches.

A Serious Question About Romans 8:1

Someone might ask:
“I’m confused. Romans 8:1 says that if I’m in Christ Jesus, I’m not under condemnation (not guilty). But when I read the King James Version, it says something different—it makes it sound like I have to live perfectly ‘in the Spirit’ to be free from guilt. I mess up every day. I have anxious thoughts and still struggle with sin. I relate a lot to Paul in Romans 7 when he talks about his own struggles. If the King James Version is right, does that mean I’m not truly saved? That’s scary. Can you help explain this?”

A Few Important Truths

1. Yes you can live in obedience to God—because of His grace.
Some people think being right with God is only about our “position” in Christ and not about how we live. But that’s not true. Grace doesn’t mean we give up trying to live in daily obedience to God. Grace gives us the power to live for God—even if we stumble. Don’t let your failures make you believe obedience is impossible.

2. God still loves you, even when you mess up.
God doesn’t break His covenant with you the moment you sin. He is patient and works with us even when we disobey. But the Bible also warns us not to keep living in sin without turning back to Him. The book of 1 John makes that clear: if we truly love God, we’ll keep coming back to Him through faith and repentance and by the power of the Holy Spirit live for Him.

3. Salvation isn’t just about “Am I saved?”
Sometimes we focus too much on checking a box: “Am I saved? Yes or no?” Obviously, salvation is a huge promise and reward. But God wants more than just a status—He wants a relationship. He wants us to say, “Lord, I want to live in a way that pleases You.” (Ephesians 5:10)

A Marriage Example

Imagine a husband saying to his wife:
“Are we still married? Did I do enough today to make sure we’re still together?”
Instead, he should say:
“I love you. You’re amazing. I’m thankful for you.”

The marriage is real, but the relationship is what makes it alive. It’s the same with God. We don’t need to keep checking on our “spiritual paperwork”—we need to grow in love with God. That’s the danger of shallow religion: it makes us focus on checking theological boxes instead of truly loving God.

The Real Questions We Should Ask:

  • Do I truly love Jesus?
    (Don’t panic—God is helping you love Him. He’s working in your heart, showing you how amazing He is. But you still have to respond.)
  • Am I amazed by Jesus’ sacrifice for me?
    He gave His life to pull you out of darkness and into His light.
  • Am I growing in grace and understanding?
    Are you learning more about Him and wanting more of Him?
  • Do I want to be close to God every day?
    Are you hungry to know Him more?

Jesus’ Sacrifice Is Not Small

Jesus didn’t just die because He had to. He gave His life because of our sin. That’s not something we should treat lightly or casually. He didn’t die just because it was part of a plan—He died because we were lost, and His love was that strong.

So don’t try to earn His love. Don’t follow God just to check theological boxes or perform rituals. Live from a place of grace.

God’s Grace Helps Us Live Right

“It is good for our hearts to be strengthened by grace…” — Hebrews 13:9 (NIV)

“The grace of God… teaches us to say ‘No’ to ungodliness and to live self-controlled, upright, and godly lives.” — Titus 2:11–12 (NIV)

A Final Thought

Some people think grace is only about being forgiven. But grace also includes God’s power to change our hearts. Some Christian thinkers (like John Wesley) believed that if we accept God’s forgiveness but reject His power to change us, we actually miss the full gift of grace.

So yes—grace saves you, but grace also transforms you.

Salvation and Theology

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Is it possible that our theology is so fixed in how it describes our relationship to God that we are more enamored with our brand of theology than with God Himself?

Within us exists a subtle temptation to convey that our interpretation of Scripture (our theology) is far more superior and more excellent than the next brother or sister. But, perhaps more serious than that, is the fact that we can be more zealous to bring people into relationship with our brand of theology than with God Himself. Often times we are convinced that there is a special “freedom” or “anointing” to our theology that no one else can offer.

Now I’m admitting that each of us wrestles with many nuances as we engage the Word of God. We are imperfect when it comes to expressing ourselves Biblically and relevantly, and we are also prejudiced toward the truth that transformed us on our personal journey. Furthermore, that each one of us is convinced we are right is not prideful or surprising. No one goes around saying, “I’m wrong, I’m wrong, I know I’m wrong.” We have grappled with the various interpretations of theology expressing salvation and, we are highly motivated by the themes that have captured our hearts and caused us to live for Him.

But after that work is accomplished in us, we can easily convey the truth in such a way that. if only people believed the way we do, they would find a greater fellowship, freedom, or breakthrough: If they would apply our version of the Gospel they would not fall into the error of so many others. (And I’m talking about those who preach a pure Gospel – Jesus is Lord and you need to turn from your self and accept His free gift of redemption through faith.) Again, it can be more about our methods and our special flavor of teachings and how the others are “off” in some error instead of simply calling people into REAL SIMPLE PASSIONATE FAITH RELATIONSHIP with the Father through Jesus Christ.

It is not theology that saves us. Theology expresses the deeper realities that are going on in our journey of salvation. But salvation is much deeper than a teaching or a method or a mindset. God uses each of these tools. But if our emphasis stops short with people celebrating the greatness of our teaching then they missed the whole point.

The challenge is getting people to respond to spiritual realities. Many live in a perpetual spiritual fog. They cannot see the forest for the trees. It is my belief that opening them up to spiritual reality is only able to be accomplished through the help of the Holy Spirit Himself. Our whole passion, as believers, should be to partner with God to see this work take place; to see people respond through a living faith. We should be excited whether God uses our particular brand of theology or whether He uses someone else’s. “Glory be to God. He captured another selfish heart and won their surrender and allegiance.” That should be our thinking. It doesn’t matter if it was Calvinism or Arminianism, or Wesleyism…or anything else.

When will we be humble enough to admit that God has used very different theologies at various points in Church history to awaken hearts? Interesting enough, in our day, it seems the pendulum has swung very far to the grace-only side. It’s like we have a “paranoia” about guiding people on how to engage God. “Now be careful, don’t engage God too intentionally now. He did it all for you. You are very near the cliff of self-effort and works, be careful!”

Don’t we think God can handle our passion, excesses and errors? If we engage Him and become obsessed with “doing,” instead of “being,” won’t He guide us and change our perspective? Many movements seem to project a message that they don’t think God can handle the different approaches of theology that are brought to the table. Once again, in such a subtle way, so much theology throughout the Church-age is reactionary theology. Leaders who have been in a dead religiosity and have lived an experience that was fake come across like they have a corner on the market of real freedom and anyone who is motivated and deeply engaged and wants to draw near to God in earnest seeking is somehow operating in self- effort. We need to make room for various emphases without projecting on others that they are in error and putting unnecessary labels on each other.